The real world is way too different; people get bored, they cheat, trust is broken and hearts are shattered.
Let us put aside the idea of a perfect world where people love their lovers honestly, with all their heart and would never ever cheat on them, where all relationships are successful and no hearts are broken, where there are no tears but only smiles and where two people live happily ever after.
The real world is way too different; people get bored, they cheat, trust is broken and hearts are shattered. Keeping a reality check on your fantasy-like love life is important. We are not living a fairy-tale where everything heals by pouring some stardust; ashes are real and so are heartbreaks.
We are not advising you to doubt your partner all the time, but if you notice a negative change in their actions or reactions, then trying to have some surety about things won’t do any bad. It can be you whose partner is secretly sleeping with someone else while apparently dating you. It can always be you.
If you have been having some yelling and eye-rolling kind of experiences with your partner lately, then there is obviously a crack in your relationship. It is your job to find out where the crack is and what shook your relationship that caused the crack. It is not a dramatic thing to say that maybe your partner is tired of your crap, maybe they are not having a good time with you or, maybe, they are seeing someone else.
As we said, it is not an ideal world we live in. Your partner can cheat on you, it IS a possibility. So if you observe their behaviour to be bizarre or unusual, we suggest you try to find out if they are seeing someone else, or maybe sleeping with them. They will not want to confront you, obviously–that’s what cheating is–but YOU have to find out because if you don’t, it would be abusing yourself.
Treating them like royalty when they are secretly sleeping with someone else is something you would never want to do. So if you see some of these 7 signs in your partner, then it’s high time you clear things up with them.
1. They Take Longer and Longer to Call or Text You Back:
Taking their privacy away is something you shouldn’t do, but if they take advantage of your trust on them then they are either a terrible person or they think you are stupid enough to trust them blindly. If they take too long to text you back or return a call, then there are chances of them cheating on you. In the dating period, you get to know how quick they are at replying to your texts and how long it takes them to get back to you on a phone call. If that is changed and they deliberately take hours to text you back, there is enough space for doubt to arise. It does not take too much time to reply to a text and even if they are actually busy, it won’t be once or twice. Repetition of late response is a sign for you.
Adding a screen lock to their phone is another sign. If you have never tried to unlock their phone to read their conversations and check their call logs, why is it that they suddenly felt the need to lock their phone? They clearly want to hide something from you, and that ˜something’ can be a ˜someone’ they are fooling around with behind your back.
2. They Come Home Late From Work:
This one may sound like a dramatic and typical sign but people actually make excuses like ˜There’s a lot of work today’ and ˜I may have to spend the night’ when they want to sneak out for something illegitimate. It is also one of the very old excuses. It is really stupid of them to use it but it can be a signal for you to be in charge and find out what’s happening, especially if it starts happening frequently.
If your partner is cheating on you and sleeping with someone else, they are aware of the fact that either you won’t question them about the time they spend at the office or you are too shy to call their boss and ask them about it. If half of their month is spent ˜working late’ yet no extra money is transferred to their account, then it is a sign; it is not work they are doing late at nights.
Call them on it, or call their boss if your doubt increases. Do not be shy or care about what he will think, because if they are actually sleeping with another person, you will regret not questioning them earlier. Confrontation is important because a relationship where trust is played with is a relationship better broken.
3. They Take a Shower As Soon As They Get Home:
Their sudden habit of getting into the shower as soon as they return from work or somewhere else maybe because of the new person they are spending time with. This sign may not be very common but if you notice them becoming a shower-freak, then there are chances they want to get rid of the smell of the person they slept with or anything else that will get them caught, like a kiss-mark.
If not going into the shower, it can be running into the bathroom as soon as they get home, for many reasons. If you want to make sure that this habit of theirs is not because they are sleeping with someone else, but just because they prefer to shower first, then try to test them by either hugging or kissing. See if they hesitate or resist and tell you that they will be out from the shower in minutes and then catch you. Frequent excuses for not doing anything before taking a shower can be forms of the sign they are sleeping with someone else.